Sensory Processing Differences in Motherhood


As a pediatric speech-language pathologist for 9 years, a mama of two under 5 years old, and someone who easily experiences sensory overwhelm, I am here to talk about our sensory system and the sensory processing differences that we experience in motherhood. (Which kind of feels like that sensory overload that you feel when you’re at a carnival, am I right?!)

A Ferris wheel

External & Internal Senses

Growing up, we learned about our 5 senses. But believe it or not, there are actually 8 senses–5 are external senses and 3 are internal senses: 

    • Visual (seeing)
    • Auditory (hearing)
    • Olfactory (smell)
    • Tactile (touch)
    • Oral/Gustatory (taste)
    • Vestibular (sense of head movement in space)
    • Proprioceptive (sensations from muscles and joints)
    • Interception (sensations related to internal organs)

Managing our own sensory needs is one of the most critical acts of self-care that mothers of small humans need to be prioritizing. By understanding your sensory processing systems and basic sensory needs, you will internalize how important sensory self-care is. 

A little boy enjoying a carnival ride

Sensory processing is one of our most primitive brain functions.

If it is not functioning properly, our brain’s ability to do some of the higher-level functions is severely compromised. For example, accessing past memories, planning, holding a conversation, and regulating your own emotions in the thick of a toddler tantrum. It is really important as moms to recognize that our sensory needs are not just a matter of mindset. They are primitive body processes; it is literally a reflex!  

Sensory processing is the body’s system of receiving sensory information from the environment, organizing it in the brain, and responding appropriately. Everything we experience is filtered through our sensory system. Our response may be emotional or physical, but it all starts with our senses. If we were to break it down, we would have three main areas:

    1. Discrimination: the ability to register sensory input from the 8 senses.
    2. Processing: gives the input meaning; we can identify where it came from and the intensity of the input.
    3. Response/Modulation: how we react to the input–over-responsive, under-responsive, sensory seeking.

Sensory modulation/regulation refers to the behavioral and emotional responses to sensory input. A person that is well-modulated/regulated is able to pay attention and effectively deal with sensory inputs and challenges while remaining calm. 

Sensory dysregulation means your brain is constantly interpreting sensory information. Like it is a full cup, really hard to empty, and always teetering on the edge of overflowing. As mothers, we find ourselves in a very unique life stage. Biologically, our bodies are more sensitive to the sensory world around us and physically, our day-to-day lives with young children are very sensory-rich. 

Here’s a visual: Have you ever wondered why you feel over-touched and like you just need silence so often as a mom? Have you ever wondered why you are not able to think or even function in the middle of your toddler’s tantrum? Especially if these are things you never felt before you become a mom? 

Jacqueline helping her son work through sensory overload at a carnival

There are 3 reasons why we feel this way and the general reason is due to sensory overload/dysregulation: 

Sensory Profile/Neurological Threshold

Each of our brains can tolerate a certain amount of each sensation. Each of our sensory systems has its own threshold and they can all be different. For example, you could be sensitive to sound (low threshold), but need more sense of touch (high threshold). Our threshold fluctuates throughout our lifetime and also throughout our day. There are things specifically in motherhood that lower our threshold and make us more sensitive to the sensory information around us, such as:

      • Stress
      • Mental load
      • Sleep deprivation
      • Anxiety
      • Extended times of being “on” with no downtime

When we are stressed, anxious, or highly focused, our bodies release various stress hormones to help us function on a high level of alertness, i.e. the sympathetic nervous system is activated. It switches our brains and bodies into fight or flight to prepare us to function at our highest level. When we are in this mode, we are highly sensitive to what is happening around us and our sensory systems are ready to go, i.e., our neurological threshold is low. We can work on building our tolerance level little by little by adapting our environment, depending on our sensory profile. 

Jacqueline at a carnival with her children


The second reason that mothers of small children experience dysregulation more is based on the environment that we find ourselves in. As mothers of young children, we take in A LOT of sensory information all day long. Often all at once and with very few breaks. 

    • Tactile/Touch: Constantly carrying your littles? Picking up? Cuddling? Being over-touched is the norm with toddlers. 
    • Auditory/Noise/Sound: Giggles? Crying? Siblings fighting? Toys that make noise? Cocomelon background noise? While trying to make an adult phone call?
    • Visual/Sight: Let’s talk about that toy clutter, though… maybe a visual of that pile of laundry you haven’t been able to get to?
    • Vestibular/Head Movement: I now suffer from chronic back pain ever since I became a mother. The constant amount of bending–whether it’s to put on shoes, kiss a boo boo, pick up toys, or pick up your child–all that is activating your vestibular system around the clock. 

The list goes on and on and on. Being a mom of small kids definitely stimulates our senses all day long. We are trying to stay regulated at a very high level of sensory intensity. (Be gentle with yourself!) Minimizing the sensory information around you, changing the environment, and connecting with nature are crucial for promoting self-regulation. 

Jacqueline and her daughter enjoying a moment of peace and calm

The Task at Hand

The third reason that mothers of small children experience dysregulation more is based on the task at hand at that current moment. We may be able to stay calm for a longer period of time if we weren’t trying to focus on writing an email when we got triggered. Alternating highly focused times and times of high sensory demand is crucial for promoting self-regulation. 

I do want to be clear, though–our kids being noisy, playful, and needing to be cuddled is a good thing! This is how they are supposed to be! However, we need to recognize our sensory triggers and regulate our sensory systems in order to fully show up as a parent. We cannot co-regulate when we, ourselves, are dysregulated. A dysregulated adult CANNOT regulate a dysregulated child.

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Jacqueline Jebian Garcia
Jacqui is an old soul and finds joy in all things vintage. If she could live in this VW van while singing old tunes with her guitar, she would! She holds a bachelor’s degree in music and a master’s degree in speech language pathology. Through singing, she grew an interest in the relationship between music, language, and the brain. She is passionate about combining music and creativity into her multi-sensory approach in order to improve overall use of functional communication skills in a more hands-on way. She is even more passionate about her amazing husband of 10 years and their two children, Joshua and Jovi. She is a wife and a mama before being an SLP and social emotional coach; but, lately, she has found so much peace in the human ability to create herself to become the person she has always wanted to be at any given time, and accepting that that person will evolve time and time again. She is honest and transparent about all things motherhood, marriage, and mental health. She sparks her creativity frequently through singing, music, painting, writing, and creating as her therapeutic outlet. She invites you to follow along @createyourselfco (previously @diyspeechiemommy) on Instagram, Facebook, and Etsy to experience her journey of what was once only DIY, speech therapy, and motherhood to what has now become a more holistic approach-- how she has evolved by creating herself to become the person she has always wanted to be simply by CREATING; and how she has created programs to give parents the tools to create sensational connection with themselves, but also with their children. <3


  1. THIS POST IS SO GOOD! You put so many words to how I often feel in motherhood. Thank you for tackling this topic so thoroughly. Would love to learn more about each of the senses/tips to help in overload of each.

  2. I feel like you are once again in my head!!! This is incredible! Yes these sensory needs are primitive part if who we are… they run deep and we need to take a look in and recognize the. and take steps to do what we need to in order to feel regulated. Thank you for your wonderful words once again here to bring comfort and support.

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