Post-Partum Crisis: Is This a Thing?


You know, like a midlife crisis

The definition of a midlife crisis is a period of transition in life where someone struggles with their identity and self-confidence. It happens anywhere from 40 years old to 60 years old and affects men and women. A midlife crisis is not a disorder but is mainly psychological.

Okay, now let’s talk about post-partum identity crisis. It is not talked about that much and it is something that many moms experience. An identity crisis is a time of conflict or confusion about your current role (i.e. Who am I?, I am just a mom?). Occupations (including motherhood) are key to creating and maintaining an identity. We can still reconstruct our identity through engaging in meaningful work and activities. We can still recreate ourselves–-negotiating an identity between who we were before motherhood and who we’ve become. It is important to find new or old activities of interest to find that sense of fulfillment. Sometimes, the daily house chores just won’t make the cut! Make that time for YOU, whether it’s writing, photography, reading, singing, blogging, baking, sewing, gardening, dancing, etc. 

A postpartum mom wearing her newborn baby in a sling

But here’s what I really want to know.

Is there really such a thing as a post-partum crisis? If there isn’t, I am definitely going to make this a thing! Haha 

After both of my pregnancies, I have found myself getting tattoos, piercings, and going on shopping sprees trying to find out what my fashion style is (with or without the baby weight!). I even found myself applying to become a contributing writer to an amazing mom blog when writing was never my forte growing up! LOL Shoutout to Nasty Gal, thank you for being my go-to postpartum shopping spree store, and to Miami Mom Collective for giving me a tribe of amazing moms, so that my experience of motherhood wouldn’t have to be lonely! <3 

We went 10 months not fitting into our clothes. Maybe wearing leggings the majority of the time, or maybe even wearing our husband’s clothes the other half of the time. If you are anything like me, I refused to spend money on maternity clothes that I wouldn’t wear after pregnancy. So fast forward 10 months later. We are clueless about what our fashion style is and in desperate need of our outfits to reflect who we are as a form of self-expression! Not just wearing our mom uniform usually consisting of black leggings, an oversized t-shirt, with a topknot bun and spit up on our clothes as a form of an accessory! 

So tell me… what have you gravitated towards for YOUR postpartum crisis? What tattoos or piercings have YOU gotten?! I want to know! Comment below! 🙂 

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Jacqueline Jebian Garcia
Jacqui is an old soul and finds joy in all things vintage. If she could live in this VW van while singing old tunes with her guitar, she would! She holds a bachelor’s degree in music and a master’s degree in speech language pathology. Through singing, she grew an interest in the relationship between music, language, and the brain. She is passionate about combining music and creativity into her multi-sensory approach in order to improve overall use of functional communication skills in a more hands-on way. She is even more passionate about her amazing husband of 10 years and their two children, Joshua and Jovi. She is a wife and a mama before being an SLP and social emotional coach; but, lately, she has found so much peace in the human ability to create herself to become the person she has always wanted to be at any given time, and accepting that that person will evolve time and time again. She is honest and transparent about all things motherhood, marriage, and mental health. She sparks her creativity frequently through singing, music, painting, writing, and creating as her therapeutic outlet. She invites you to follow along @createyourselfco (previously @diyspeechiemommy) on Instagram, Facebook, and Etsy to experience her journey of what was once only DIY, speech therapy, and motherhood to what has now become a more holistic approach-- how she has evolved by creating herself to become the person she has always wanted to be simply by CREATING; and how she has created programs to give parents the tools to create sensational connection with themselves, but also with their children. <3